The Household Built on Bedrock

Ephesians 5:21-6:9 | October 29th, 2017

Warm Up: A household that is built on bedrock is one that, as Jesus says, “listens to My teaching and follows it” (Matt. 7:24). One characteristic of a bedrock household is that it has “mutual submission” to Christ above all. Mutual submission to one another then flows from this priority. Why is “mutual submission” so important in a household? Contrast this idea with our culture. Does our culture have anything to say about what builds a solid, unwavering, household?

Read Ephesians 5:21-6:9 aloud. Mutual submission starts and ends this section about the household (see v. 5:21 and 6:9). The Apostle Paul highlights three relationships found within a household: wives and husbands, parents and children, and slaves and masters. Each holds a special place within the family (more on slaves and masters below), and in order to have a strong household, each needs to be managed as God has designed.

WIVES AND HUSBANDS. Read Ephesians 5:21-33.God addresses both wives and husbands in this passage by calling them to honor one another through service, respect, and love.

Discuss what it looks like to submit your marriage to Christ, both individually, and together. How can you show your kids that your marriage is under the authority of Jesus?

Wives, what are some parallels between the Church’s submission to Christ and your submission to your husband? How might this show up in the nitty gritty of life? 

Husbands, what are some parallels between Christ’s love for the Church and the love you are to have for your wives? How might this show up in the nitty gritty of life? 


CHILDREN AND PARENTS. Read Ephesians 6:1-4. Here Paul addresses the children/parent relationship. In doing this, God speaks directly to the hearts of the kids in the family and to the hearts of their parents. God says that children are to obey their parents because He made them, it is the right thing to do, and that there will be a reward on earth for those who do.

• What are some ways we can “parent their hearts," as Pastor George mentioned on Sunday and lead them to desire obedience, not just to us, but also to God?

• Parents are to shepherd their kids in a way that doesn’t bring resentment and anger in the lives of their kids. What are some ways we can cause our children to be resentful and angry with us or toward God? Share from your own upbringing if helpful.

• What are some ways we can show Christ to them and guide them toward the Lord without provoking them to anger or resentment?


SLAVES AND MASTERS. Read Ephesians 6:5-9. The Bible talks about “slaves” in a different way than what we think of as Americans. Think of those who work in or around your home. (i.e. gardeners, house cleaners, etc.) They provide a service to you and your family, and you supply some of their needs. The “master” refers to the head of the household.

Paul instructs slaves to work for their earthly masters as they would unto the Lord. Why is this important? If we were to truly adopt this attitude, how would it impact the way the slave, or we, work for others?

• “Masters” are to treat them as they would treat Jesus with the understanding that they are under the management of Christ. What things might change in your business dealings if you were to conduct them in the way God wants?

Wrap Up: A household that is built on bedrock requires a mutual submission between all relationships. What are some ways you can show this mutual submission this week? And though the mutual submission to each other is important, our submission to Christ is the most important and the key to our submission to each other. Ask the Lord to help you bring more of your life under His authority, instruction, and blessing.