Resolution for Family | Matthew 5:9; James 3:18; Romans 12:18-19 | January 28, 2018

Warm Up: What was the style of conflict that characterized your home growing up? Three categories that may help you think about this are: 1. Peace-Faking (escaping an argument or burying it) 2. Peace-Breaking (attacking one another and seeking to “win”) 3. Peace-Making (authentically pursuing both grace and truth)

• Conflict is an inevitable part of life. Unresolved conflict, however, can seriously damage relationships. There are a myriad of contributing factors when it comes to why we experience conflict in our homes: Differing views, misunderstandings, hurt or unmanaged feelings, life circumstances in flux, and kids simply growing and changing are just a few. In fact, any type of significant change can easily bring about conflict.

• What are some common factors that cause conflict in so many families today? 

• What factors seem to cause the greatest challenges in your family dynamic? 

• Jesus said, “Blessed [that is: enjoying enviable happiness, spiritually prosperous —with life — joy and satisfaction in God’s favor and salvation, regardless of their outward conditions] are the makers and maintainers of peace, for they shall be called the sons of God!” - Matthew 5:9 Amplified Bible

• Think of someone you know who is great at making peace. What have you observed about their personality, disposition, or tactics in bringing peace? 

• What do you learn from  their example? Be specific. 

• Jesus’ half-brother, James, would have seen His brother teach and model what peace-making is all about. James writes, “And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness” - James 3:18. Why is peacemaking so close to God’s heart? What might a “harvest of righteousness” look like in your family or close relationships if you are able to arrive at peace? 

• Authentic peacemaking is motivated by love, a desire to honor our Lord Jesus and maintain healthy, godly relationships. Peacemakers understand that many offenses and differences should be overlooked (see Prov. 19:11). But when an issue is too serious to overlook, they can openly and humbly discuss it.

• Is God asking you to make peace in a relationship in your life right now? Share.


Wrap Up: George closed with 10 words that will change your life when offered sincerely. “I DID WHAT WAS WRONG” (5 words of confession) I’M SORRY (2 words of repentance) “PLEASE FORGIVE ME” (3 words of promise) Why are these so powerful and disarming? Pray that you would be those who say these words often and freely!